My Work has just started..!!
Never-ending house chores and baby hues, Am I losing my identity?
For a woman so bright and glittering like me, it was not easy to leave all the social engagements that I loved to attend before having a baby. No, I was not a high-class kitty party kind of thing. But I loved to meet my friends and kins often.
Was I doing any Work?
Don’t you realize, going out and meeting friends is so much work? I had to get ready, wear nice clothes and step out of the house. All this effort for my two ugly bitches’ who never care about my dressing and never appreciate my effort towards them.
Whatever!
I still love to meet them in my new branded dresses and sleek hairstyle. No, not for them but myself. I love to look good, smell good and do good.
*Love-note to myself*
Just felt right in those carefree days, not a single thing to worry about as my mother would be there to take care of everything. I never felt that our mothers were doing ‘WORK’. It was just embedded in my fragile human system that all mothers do the house chores, all mothers cook and all mothers care for their husbands and children.
If I had to eat this and not that, my mother made sure I ate this. If I had to get up early, my mother was the one to get up earlier. If I got sick, my mother was all night up just for my sake.
Mothers are Superheros.
Now, I know that.
The cycle is repeating. I am a mother now and I just got promoted to a higher level of ‘knowing everything’ and ‘doing everything’. My kid is just one and a half years old and I am already tired.
Sometimes, I wonder how my mother did all those amazing things without even blinking. From taking care of her home to checking everyone’s needs, she aced it all.
I am nowhere close to her. I am just trying.
Society’s Standards
Why everyone expects that all women are supposed to ace it all?
Do I have to do all the work by myself without any help?
My mother never complained.
Why am I complaining?
Let me explain!
We have a huge generation gap. Our mothers were taught to do everything for everyone. They never dared to say anything. They were brainwashed for perfection. They could not afford to say no.
And I do not blame them.
I blame the patriarchy, I blame the society.
Society demands women to be perfect, according to its bogus standards. It claims the freedom of women. It destroys the inner peace of women.
What’s changed?
It’s the 21st century!
Women should not be confined to do house chores only. If we look around, hundreds of women are breaking barriers of patriarchy in almost every field. The old image of the woman is getting blurred. Women are emerging as strong and independent figures in different fields and that is what society should be proud of.
Long gone are those days, the new era is calling out the women confident and modern for every right reason.
Though I regard my mother in high esteem, yet I feel bad for her. She should have spoken, she should have said no. She should have put herself first.
Today, we know how and when to say NO!
The audacity to be able to say No at crucial times, I find it today in myself. Women of today are bold, clear at the head, and self-determined. They would do everything to make their way and this makes me a firm supporter of Feminism.
I am a woman, I do house chores and I take care of my family. I like to work too. But only at my timings. I can say No. I have my own choices, and I am not ready to fit into society’s standards of the good woman.
And you should too!
Never be afraid to follow your choices. Put yourself first. Make wrong decisions and learn from them. Let society wait. Let the world wait.
You can conquer it, at your own time, at your own pace!
